At Ruby Retreat we are interested in Dr Gabor Maté’s idea of trauma and its effect upon us, which we believe can lead to addiction. Gabor Maté is an internationally renowned authority in the fields of trauma, addiction, childhood development and AD(H)D.

What is trauma?

Trauma is not what happens to a person, but what happens within them. In line with its Greek origins, trauma means a wound—an unhealed one, and one the person is compelled to defend against by means of constricting his/her own ability to feel, to be present, to respond flexibly to situations. Nothing overly dramatic needs to happen to a young human being to induce trauma: it is sufficient that she or he is wounded without an immediate capacity to heal the wound. Thus, a parent’s emotional distance or depression, in the absence of any intended or implied abuse, is enough.”

Gabor Maté

It is our hope to offer tools and ways for clients to deal with trauma and to recognise when our individual trauma may be activated/alive in us, and to find ways to self care instead of using our drug of choice to numb or distract ourselves.

Our 3-day programme is a collaboration of many proven modalities.

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